spent the better part of three hours trying to get him to understand how violating my partners consent, through the form of forcing communication when it was clear and expressed they were too upset and triggered to talk directly, might have been a slight faux pay and made a situation worse.

like yeah sure they hadn't been clear over text in a way which inconvenienced him, and im quite sure it was upsetting to have me suddenly talking for them, but like jesus dude just don't be rapey and they wouldn’t have cried their eyes out