@permakid this is suuuuuper relatable to us. aroace, but super into kink stuff and like fictional romance/poly stuff, and definitely not anti-sexual. so often I just wanna be able to be smol and cute but it feels like I'm either joining a group of anti-sexual people to do so - meaning that my kinky side is never okay - or I'm joining a place where it feels like I'm obligated to be sexual :c

no idea what the solution is but you're definitely not alone!