come to possums dot gay, where the owner of the instance is the only one to experience significantly slower download speeds than the rest of it's users
okay here's something interesting, when i test it from another VPS i happen to have on hand (different company)... the download times are instantaneous
so somehow, some way, i'm the only one who is experiencing issues, yay
putting this out here because i've noticed it got slower, probably due to the server being slower than what we used to have; i'll consider bumping up the specs if i can figure out when and how liberapay does payments, since they are really weird about that lol
hmmm, on the one hand i'd like to directly allow people here to invite their friends, since that'd be nice and would be a good way to expand this place just a little bit
on the other hand it'd be awkward because i'd want to Vibe Check them, and the promise of an invite being denied because they didn't pass my arbitrary vibe check would kinda feel shitty
okay oops i had to do this again actually, i forgot that higher CPU counts added more lines to the config file, so i yeeted those out so we're not trying to allocate more resources than we should lol
something that i personally hope to avoid is to create an environment where people are afraid of me as an admin or owner of this server
lots of other places on fedi make it so people are scared of admins of other instances since they wield so much power and influence they can snuff out other people they don't like
and i want to avoid that as much as possible, the power i hold here is to just keep things afloat, and to ensure that a safe space is made here, not one where i just ban people because i don't like them, or exert my influence over other instances to get rid of people i don't like.
never in a million years would i wish to chase off someone from here, i know from personal experience how fucking awful and soul-crushing it feels, especially as a vulnerable transfemme.
