saying "you're just letting your pain define you as a person" for me drawing cub art, is such a bullshit rationale way for shitting on this kind of art.
demonizing what i do and playing it off as "oh i just think it's disgusting, i'm not demonizing you, but i also think you need to grow up because this is unhealthy" is insanely insensitive, and moreover misses the whole point of all of this.
this art empowers me, it helps me process my trauma by letting me re-explore things that have previously traumatized me, in ways that can not be expressed into words. and sure, absolutely, a lot of this is the fact that this is porn, that's my main satisifcation from it. but reaching into my mind's palace and figuring out what trauma lies there from my past is also a good exercise in general.
plus there's the fact my actual therapist has told me this is a good way for me to sort through my trauma. disagreeing with my own therapist sure is a ballsy fucking move.
