and hey lemme be clear here, if you prefer a big instance, that's fine too. there are benefits to being on a big instance, for sure. but for a lot of us that fall through the cracks easily, they don't work out because of the inherent nature of how moderating these communities work.
that's exactly why i made this instance, and want to keep it small; i fall through the cracks a lot. i know how it's like. to both be ignored on important issues, but to also be made enemy number one out of nothing.